It's Not You, It's Everything

$19.00

A gentle guide and workbook for new moms who feel anxious and overwhelmed

If you're lying awake wondering why everyone else seems to cope better, or feeling like you're failing at something you wanted so much, this book is for you.

I wrote it for the mom I was after my daughter was born, when I had postpartum depression and didn't yet have a name for it. Everything felt too big, and the harder I tried to get things right, the more anxious I became. Professional help is what got me through. Alongside it, a few small things I could do every day, however the day went, gave me something steady to hold on to. This book gathers those things, together with what I wish someone had told me back then.

Inside you'll find:

  • 12 short chapters on why the early months feel so hard, covering what your body and life have just been through, the myth of the perfect mom, anxious thoughts, guilt, broken sleep, asking for help and holding on to who you are.

  • Practical tools marked Try this, such as the racing-heart reset for panic, the what-if pause for spiraling thoughts, calming scripts for 2am and a simple way to prepare what to say when you need help.

  • Small daily anchors for mornings and evenings that don't depend on your baby's schedule, plus a weekly planner you can actually keep up with.

  • Space to write under every exercise, so the book becomes your own.

  • A clear chapter on when it's more than just hard, with signs that it's time to reach out for support.

  • A one-page quick reference that points you to the right tool for the moment you're in.

You don't have to read it in order. Open it on a hard day, find the page you need, and leave the rest for later.

Format: 30-page PDF, designed to read on your phone or print at home.

A gentle guide and workbook for new moms who feel anxious and overwhelmed

If you're lying awake wondering why everyone else seems to cope better, or feeling like you're failing at something you wanted so much, this book is for you.

I wrote it for the mom I was after my daughter was born, when I had postpartum depression and didn't yet have a name for it. Everything felt too big, and the harder I tried to get things right, the more anxious I became. Professional help is what got me through. Alongside it, a few small things I could do every day, however the day went, gave me something steady to hold on to. This book gathers those things, together with what I wish someone had told me back then.

Inside you'll find:

  • 12 short chapters on why the early months feel so hard, covering what your body and life have just been through, the myth of the perfect mom, anxious thoughts, guilt, broken sleep, asking for help and holding on to who you are.

  • Practical tools marked Try this, such as the racing-heart reset for panic, the what-if pause for spiraling thoughts, calming scripts for 2am and a simple way to prepare what to say when you need help.

  • Small daily anchors for mornings and evenings that don't depend on your baby's schedule, plus a weekly planner you can actually keep up with.

  • Space to write under every exercise, so the book becomes your own.

  • A clear chapter on when it's more than just hard, with signs that it's time to reach out for support.

  • A one-page quick reference that points you to the right tool for the moment you're in.

You don't have to read it in order. Open it on a hard day, find the page you need, and leave the rest for later.

Format: 30-page PDF, designed to read on your phone or print at home.